Real Friends versus Fake Friends

Many of us might be wondering if we have any actual friends who would care about us at all and I am sure that all of us want real friends, but sometimes people get confused between ‘friends’ and ‘real friends’.

What is the difference ?

Now I’m sure that at least some of us have known that friend who kept on saying that they miss you , but never show any effort ? That’s certainly NOT a real friend.
Or that friend who kept on indirectly telling us to do what they want and only want us to sacrifice for them. Here I’ll give you am example :

df( dat friend ) : ” I miss you a lot why don’t you come to my place ? ”
you : *sacrifices your time and energy to go to df’s place even tho it’s really far* [repeat incidence for many times and df never show that they have the initiative to use their time and energy to go to your place]

You get annoyed and when df does this again:
Df: I miss you so much come to my place
You: umm why don’t you come to my place ?
Df: oh I’m too busy and I’m kinda sick so can you come to my place ? ( uses sick or busy excuse for more than 10 times )
If something like that happens, you should try to act a little bit cold to them to see if they would really miss you and ask if they could come to your place to visit or not.
OR that friend who never let you finish your sentence, by this I don’t only mean by cutting your sentence but also changing the topic or not paying attention. And those friends would talk about their own problems and beg and cry for you to help solving it once you’re done talking. Those kinds of people aren’t even your ‘friends’ , they’re your parasite companion with a huge ego.

real friends would give out their time no matter how busy they are , at least if they are really that busy, they would try to keep in touch with you as often as possible and not only talking about that problems but asking how you are too.
Real friends would listen too anyway , not only do they listen , but they would sacrifice their energy to try hard cheering you up.
Real friends wouldn’t want their pal’s work to be one sided, they want to loe back their pal who loves them. And they would come over to your place no matter how far it is from their house, or they would try to video call you if they love out of city or country.

Don’t be confused with friends who would spend time with you when you’re in your best shape and those who would lift you up at your worst.

That way we can see who is the real deal without being bothered by the fake ones .


There was she. The little girl who was named Ann by her parents. She was just there, standing still on the crowded walkways. She was alone, but the look in her eyes told people otherwise.

Ann was with her parents walking on the pretty walkways in Venice, enjoying all the views she could see. It wasn’t her first time visiting Venice, but it was her first time to be amazed by Venice’s beauty after her eyes had been finally healed with 15 painful times of eye surgeries.

Ann’s eyes were foreign to the world, her eyes were surprised by the little things Ann could spot. The world welcomed Ann’s sparkling eyes warmly by showing her the beauty of nature and people and Ann gladly accepted it.

Ann’s eyes were damaged when she was a baby , nobody knew what happened but the doctors said that somehow her pupils couldn’t control the amount of light coming in properly and that her did not have the ability to focus on objects or views. Her parents were heartbroken after hearing it, but the good thing was after many of their faithful prayers, a specialized young doctor came to them and informed the two parents that Ann’s eyes could be healed.

“For real !?” Ann’s mom shrieked in happiness while her husband hugged her tight.

The young doctor nodded and smiled at the two parents and since then, Ann received many types of eye treatments to prepare her eyes for the coming surgery.

“I planned out this to completed in 5 times of surgery. And the cost for the surgeries shall be free.” The young doctor stated one day after the special treatments for Ann.

The married couple thanked the young doctor and they shook the young doctor’s hand with excitement.


Five times surgery, and it was a success, Ann and Ann’s parents only needed to count days before taking the bandages off Ann’s eyes. The young doctor reminded Ann’s two parents to give extra care to Ann’s eyes for the eyes would still be very fragile.

But things don’t alwas go that smoothly in life. At night, three more days to take Ann’s bandages off and an accident happened. Like the first time, no one knew when or how it happened, but Ann’s eyes were once again damaged. The two rushed their 4 year-old daughter in panic to the young doctor’s hospital and Ann’s eyes were immediately checked.

“Excessive light have entered her eyes which caused serious damages to it. This is strange, how did it happened ?” The young doctor asked, slightly shaking his head.

Ann’s dad shook his head with confusion and despair. The young doctor understood and he contined checking in silence.

The next morning after it happened Ann got her sixth eye surgery, the result was that now her eyes are saved from the danger but still has a long way to go until it is healed.
The month after it she got another surgery and by that time Ann had turned 5.
Time flies , her tenth surgery came to her, she turned 6. And in her tenth surgery am accident happened inside her eyes which meant that more suregeries would be coming to her.

Two of her parents could only have faith that Ann’s eyes would be healed. Ann had grown into a sweet and caring child, she had hope and she was loved by her parents, and the mighty Creator.


The process showed good signs for the future. They were just one step away from finish.


It succeeded. At the end of treatments. Nothing bad happened to Ann’s eyes, Ann’s eyes were finally healed.

It was an achievement for the young doctor, Ann’s two parents and for Ann herself. None of them gave up, absolutely none of them, even in the hardest times.

Faith , Hope , Love was what they had to continue fighting and to not give up.


To All The Heartbrokens

We are betrayed , even though we are loyal to them.
We are left , even though we always waited for them.
We are forgotten , even though we remembered them.
We are taken for granted , even though we were always there for them.

No need to worry for long , bad things don’t happen forever. The pain we endure now , will be the strength for tomorrow’s challenges. Don’t stress yourself , take it easy , let it go. In that way you can be happy that you were useful in life. Don’t overthink , and you will realize , many people are waiting to love you !